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Kristal Melbye
Apr 30, 20212 min read
Handling Sibling Complaints
My oldest comes into the kitchen and exclaims, “Anna is so messy! I’m so sick of having her stuff all over my side of the room! Her...
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Kristal Melbye
Mar 19, 20202 min read
The Kids are All Right: Schooling during Quarantine
I’m going to give you all permission to calm down about "homeschooling" your kids. The reason I think you may need this is because I did....
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Kristal Melbye
Mar 8, 20203 min read
Some Thoughts on Tantrums
I wanted start by addressing a question that came up a couple times this week: What do we do about tantrums?! It's really important for...
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Kristal Melbye
May 17, 20196 min read
When Consequences Don't Work, Part II Giving Kids a Vision and a Plan
Although the concept of giving kids a vision and a plan can sound a bit abstract, it can be quite simple to put into action if you take...
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Kristal Melbye
May 5, 20195 min read
When Consequences Don't Work, Part I Relationship
“Can you help us come up with better consequences? None of our consequences are working.” I am asked some variation of this question...
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Kristal Melbye
Feb 26, 20195 min read
The Gift of Manners
The whole family was at BBC lighting, for what seemed like a million years, buying a dozen random things to upgrade our lighting fixtures...
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Kristal Melbye
Dec 28, 20183 min read
Let Our Kids Own Their Problems
It was a Friday morning, almost 8:25. The older two had left for school an hour earlier, and my twins had been ready to go since 8:00....
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Kristal Melbye
Nov 30, 20183 min read
Guiding Kids through Problems
Our kids will have problems. It’s an inevitable part of life. And, although it’s not easy to watch our kids go through problems, it’s...
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Kristal Melbye
Jun 20, 20183 min read
Put On Your Own Oxygen Mask First
It's not a new analogy, but it's one that helped me a lot when my kids were really young, and it's one of which I still need to be...
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Kristal Melbye
Jun 2, 20183 min read
How to Start Your Kids Contributing
If your kids are already contributing to the household, that’s great! If they could do more, consider adding in a few new things for them...
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Kristal Melbye
May 21, 20182 min read
Make 'em work! Why chores are good
I remember when my kids were little it took so much longer to have them help me empty the dishwasher or sweep the floor than if I’d just...
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Kristal Melbye
May 9, 20183 min read
Allowance Logistics: Setting Up an Allowance System for Your Family
Parents often ask how to introduce allowance to their kids if they’re not linking it to chores. It’s hard for parents to wrap their mind...
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Kristal Melbye
May 2, 20183 min read
Why I give my kids allowance... and don't make them work for it
First of all, let me explain the elephant in the room…elephant in the title… is that an expression? My kids do a lot of work around the...
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Kristal Melbye
Apr 17, 20182 min read
Two Tips to Help with Consequences
Now that you’re starting to have the empathetic statement you memorized on the tip or your tongue, I’m sure setting limits and delivering...
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Kristal Melbye
Apr 15, 20182 min read
Empathy cheat
If you missed the last post on the importance of empathy, you can read it here. We know using empathy when our kids are experiencing...
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Kristal Melbye
Apr 2, 20183 min read
Empathy helps our kids place the blame where it belongs
Last time we discussed how it’s important to let our kids make smaller mistakes and suffer the consequences of them when they’re young so...
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Kristal Melbye
Mar 16, 20183 min read
"Doing what’s best for our kids doesn’t always feel good"
My oldest was only a few months old when I first saw a talk by Charles Fay (the son of a founder of Love and Logic). I sneaked out...
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Kristal Melbye
Mar 6, 20183 min read
Neutralizing Arguing… and Begging, Backtalk, and Whining
A couple nights of less than ideal sleep will always throw me off my game. I had a morning like that today. And, of course, the times...
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Kristal Melbye
Mar 5, 20182 min read
"Calm Empathy, Calm Empathy"
Two discussions in the last couple days got me thinking. One was a discussion with a group of women describing their current parenting...
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